Let me start by saying, it's a damn good thing I got a vacation this past weekend. This week has started out horrible! Yesterday, Shaymus got suspended from school and he also got an in school suspension on Friday for something different. The child is in 3rd grade and he took a lighter to school with him (this tiime) and was showing it to the other students. Needless to say, he got caught with it. I had to go pick him up from the Principals office and talk to her about it. I was so pissed at him and it took everything in me not to scream bloody murder at him. I am angry that he took a lighter to school but I am really angry because he knows better. We have had this issue before and he has been taught and lectured to about how dangerous fire is. We have been dealing with his pyro issues for over 3 years now. I'm pissed.
He was suspended for 1 day and this is how he is spending it. If he's not in his room, he is cleaning the house. Doesn't look like much fun does it. I don't know how else to punish him. He is grounded for 2 weeks, today and yesterday he was in his room with nothing to do. There will be no friends, TV, computer or video games for the first week, the second week he can play with friends but still no TV, computer, games.........and his freedom will be very limited for quite awhile now.
I hope this reminds him of how he is expected to behave and be responsible.
Oh no a little pyro already? You poor thing. I hope he learns his lesson from this, for both yours and his sake.
ReplyDeleteWell, at least you can say hooray for your school for being strict. Ever had to deal with a school that should send kids home and doesn't :p It may be inconvenient for parents, but it's part of the learning process - it tells the kid in no uncertain terms "This behavior is NOT acceptable"!
ReplyDeleteMy SIL had a child who liked fire. They found a safe outlet to let him explore the urge. I mean, fire IS fascinating and I remember my dad allowing us to try burning things (in a safe ways - he had done enough time as crash crew, fireman to not be silly). Anyhow, it helped her son and he's got past his fascination. Here's her post on it http://smilesandtrials.blogspot.com/2008/12/playing-with-fire-literally.html
I kept waiting for you to say, "And then I screamed at the principal and took Shaymus home for some ice cream, because it was such a traumatic experience for him."
ReplyDeleteAnd then you didn't say any of that.
I cheered! HOORAY! A parent who is not afraid of discipline. I love it.
You are to be commended for being such a good parents. And he will learn...because you are teaching him well, clearly.
Ugh. I do NOT look forward to these days. I'm sorry! Sounds like a total effing challenge. (HUG)
ReplyDeleteI know a little manual labor like that would cure my kids, too. :)
ReplyDeleteOkay, I'm the bad parent who lets my kids play with fire..well not play but my kids and I are learning the art of fire dancing. :)
ReplyDeleteBefore I let them try it we made a trip to our local fire station and they saw videos about how destructive fire is and learned about fire safety. Maybe if you had him take cookies to the fire station they would give him a tour and he could see it is serious buisness.
LOL, thanks for all of the advice! Unfortunatly we have already done the fire intervention through the local fire dept. He know the dangers of playing with fire. He was found playing with matches about 3 years ago and he was throwing them in the trash!!!!
ReplyDeleteI guess he will just have to learn the hard way. Being grounded sucks. especially when he has a half day today and no school tomorrow and thru the weekend.